The average number of married couples who end up getting divorced is around 50%. It can be intimidating knowing that half of the people who get married end up separating. This is why we want to share with you some of the tips we’ve learned in such a short time about how to have a happy marriage.
Love Each Other
The first thing that should be the most obvious, but at times may slip from our minds is love. Love each other. In the end if we focus on the other individual and their happiness then we ultimately are less selfish and can work toward a happy marriage. This isn’t to say we need to completely forget about ourselves, rather be aware of the other person and their feelings. I can remember the beaming smile on my wife’s face as I surprised her by being home early from work. I had cleaned up the house and left foam hearts all over with something I love about her written on each one. This simple act made a world of a difference. As we do things like this for each other our mutual happiness increases.
Make a Plan
This is incredibly important. We plan out our date nights. We plan our vacations. We plan our finances. We plan our meals. We plan our workouts. Well, you get the point. We plan everything we can to make sure we’re always on the same page. Interestingly enough finances are one of the top reasons why couples get divorced. We’ve never really let that become a point that comes between us. While we have had struggles and minor differences we always come to a conclusion together. With hectic schedules and busy lifestyles this can be quite difficult. The more you strive to plan together the better chance you have of succeeding.
Have a Common Goal
When two individuals have a common goal they are able to grow closer together as they work towards that goal. Many people have religious beliefs that unite them in their common goal towards good. Others may have financial goals that involve saving and planning to achieve something they both want. Fitness can act as another uniting theme. I’ve actually found a lot of joy as we both work together on our health and having a better lifestyle. We thoroughly enjoy the gym and working out while supporting each other. This also serves as a great stress reliever that helps us not feel the need to vent.
No matter what methods you have of maintaining a happy marriage, make sure you set apart time and put forth the effort to keep it that way. Let us know what kind of things you do to have a happy marriage in the comments!
We haven’t posted much about our story here on Lift Laugh Love, so who are we? We haven’t had time to post a welcome video on this yet but we’ll get to that soon! I’m John Barker and my wife is Natalee Barker. We met in December of 2014 and were married on May 19, 2015 in Gilbert, AZ. (There’s a lot more to that but we can get into details later!)
We’re currently living in our second apartment which gives us more room than the first, which we needed! I graduated from Arizona State University with a bachelors degree in Mechanical Engineering and a minor in Business. I currently work for MTD designing and manufacturing outdoor power equipment while going back to ASU for an master degree in Business Analytics. Some of my hobbies include going to the gym, gardening, and playing games. Natalee has a true passion for dance and has been dancing since she was only three years old. She loves to be social and has an adventurous attitude. While she currently works at Lifetime in the Kids Academy she spends her free time hanging out with family and friends, vlogging, and of course being the best wife ever!
We both have an incredible passion for health and fitness. Any time we can we’ll go hiking or camping to get out into nature and enjoy staying active. We also love food, both cooking and eating it.
In the spirit of explanation, here’s a brief summary of why we named our blog “Lift Laugh Love”.
Lift – This comes from the passion we share for fitness.
Laugh – We believe that life should be enjoyed and that every moment should be cherished and remembered.
Love – We love each other, our family, and our friends. We want to share this with the world.
Hopefully we will be able to get to know you as you get to know is through our posts and vlogs, and we’re grateful you chose to subscribe/follow.
Happy Anniversary! Today marks the one year anniversary of our marriage. It’s been an incredible journey, but it’s only the beginning. We’re looking forward to countless more memories together. We started this blog together with our YouTube channel to share with everyone the joys we find in life, with each other, and even at the gym. We have a natural passion for fitness hence the “Lift” in our Lift Laugh Love name.
We had fallen behind in posting both here and on YouTube, but last night we made a lot of progress towards new content that we’ll be posting shortly. It’s amazing how many different things there are that couples can do to get to know each other even more, and that families can do to develop deep relationships. We’ve done things from picnics in the park and home movie nights to rock climbing and parasailing.
Recently we’ve tried dance lessons at a local dance studio and found that they’re a lot of fun. While I’m not as good on my feet as Natalee is (she was born a dancer) we have a lot of fun and she’s great at being patient with me. We hope to be able to develop a relationship with you, our subscribers, and share many great moments in life.
We had an amazing time on the Carnival Imagination ship to Ensenada, Mexico. All you can eat food, live entertainment, and an amazingly fun ship all together. Definitely a recommended vacation for anyone.